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"Fate has placed me at the juncture of two African American culinary traditions: the plantation Big House and the rural South," Harris wrote. She went on to follow countless pathways from that origin point, exploring her Southern roots in a 1994 menu featuringalong with spinach spiked with baked sweet potatoes, hot sauce-spiked spinach, and gingersnaps with ice cream.

Harris traveled to the Caribbean for a September 1996 feature on chicken dishes including Puerto Rico's— a dish she explained "is a legacy of indentured servants who came from coastal India in the last century" and "has taken a bit from the French and a bit from the African to become truly Creole."And she has shared recipes and essays with Food & Wine along the way — notably a 1996 exploration of

and another on her mother's, a 2022 reflection on her decades spent entertaining friends in

, the 2019 curation of an exceptional package called "

," honoring the contributions of African American people to American cuisine, and aWhen she was about to turn 40, Day met her now-husband on Hinge. She thought there wasn't much hope at getting pregnant since she was now older and her husband was 44, but she did end up getting pregnant naturally just after her 41st birthday. When that pregnancy also ended in miscarriage, Day says it showed herself and her partner how much they really wanted to have a baby.

The two embarked on their own fertility journey, which ended with trying egg donation. Day explains that she felt like she was at an age where she would prefer to have a healthy egg that produces a viable embryo, rather than try using her own eggs. After a year of finding a donor and adjusting her lifestyle, she traveled to Los Angeles just after Christmas in 2022 for the embryo transfer. And it did not take."Again, you are pitched into this devastating realization that there is no explanation that even when you do everything you are meant to do, sometimes it just doesn't happen," Day says. "And that was one of the lowest points of my life."

"Looking back, that's over two years ago now, and I could never have imagined that I would be here, which is fully at peace with a life without biological children," she shares. "And the reason I am at peace with it, I had to confront some dark things. I had to ask myself some honest questions. But ultimately, it came down to the idea that maybe it's not my path in this lifetime to be a mother in the conventional sense."Day notes that she's lucky enough to have three step kids, two nieces and 13 godchildren. "I'm very blessed in that respect, and I'm very aware that there are so many different ways to show up in a parenting role in this world," she adds.